Showing posts with label music. Show all posts
Showing posts with label music. Show all posts

Sunday, June 3, 2012

11 Things

The Rules:
1. Post these rules.
2. Post a photo of yourself and 11 random facts about you.
3. Answer the questions given to you in the tagger’s post.
4. Create 11 new questions and tag new people to answer them.
5. Go to their blog/twitter and let them know they have been tagged.

Okay, so my cousin Lena (at Lovin' My Crazy Life) tagged me in this crazy post full of 11 things: random facts, questions she asked and I answered, and 11 questions for me to ask people to answer. This was way back at the beginning of May and I'm that much of a slacker and procrastinator that it took me a month to do it! But here I am so let's begin, shall we?



11 Random Facts:
(Note: Each fact had like a paragraph of explanation, but I cut them out. It hurt! lol)
1. I haven't seen my natural hair color since I was 16.
2. While I love to write I find that I'm incapable unless I'm writing about something that makes me passionate. The subject has to invoke some kind of strong emotion in me.
3. While it's no surprise that I love bacon, it has to be crispy.
4. I always have at least 7 tabs open at all times in my browser.
5. I have HORRIBLE dental hygiene.
6. I'm long winded. *gasp* I bet you'd never guess that one, huh? :o)
7. I love cartoon monkeys. My son's current nickname is Monkey.
8. I've given up work for school.
9. I'm on the Atkins diet.
10. I'm addicted to coffee and Diet Mountain Dew. One reason I don't sleep at night!
11. I love country music. I love the sounds, the lyrics and the people who play and sing them. There's something to be said for being raised with a country set of morals.

Now, to answer Lena's questions....

1. What is your favorite song and why? My favorite song changes often but right now it’s “Ain’t No Reason” by Brett Dennon. If you haven’t heard it, please go here and DON’T WATCH the video, just listen. Then, play it again but this time watch the video. The truths in the words are brought to life in the images and every time I watch it I'm brought to tears.
2. What Biblical person do you feel you relate to and why? This is a hard question for me because I’m not as familiar with the Bible as I probably should be. I’m going to go with the unnamed woman who washed Jesus’ feet. She was the lowest of the low but He showed her love, compassion and forgiveness in front of everyone. It’s what I hope He shows me when my time on earth is done.
3. How many places have you lived and where was your favorite? I have lived in many states, many cities. My favorite was any town in North Carolina. The weather is beautiful and there are four distinct seasons despite what many people up here in Central New York think. I’ve seen the beauty of fall, the snow of winter, the heat of summer and the renewal of spring. The fact that my family was (and some still are) there is the sweetest part of it all.
4. As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? As I barely hit my double digits I wanted to be a mother and a teacher. I’ve the ‘mother’ part done (heh) and I am in school working towards the ‘teacher’ part.
5. Favorite childhood memory? The happiest times that I remember from before I was 8 was waking up in the “middle of the night” and seeing my mother, sister and brother awake doing things that were so cool only because I thought it was so late at night. I’ve woken up to games of Clue and a snack of pickles, biscuit making sessions and more. I loved that I wasn’t chastised and sent to bed every time, but occasionally allowed to join in before going back to sleep.
6. Where/what is your ‘happy place’? My ‘happy place’ is a toss-up. Right off the bat I’d say snuggling with my 2yo (almost 3!), but these days with his awful tantrums and inability to speak in anything other than a whine leads me to say my happy place is in my bed reading while he’s asleep at night. I rarely get enough sleep myself because I relish the quiet after he’s in bed and try to get as much as I can before surrendering to the new day.
7. What is the most annoying toy you have ever purchased for your child/ren? Most of the things I buy for my son are clothes, movies or small toys. Not much room there for annoying things. Those come from his grandparents! But this child will watch Dumbo a hundred times a day every single day unless I urge him to watch something else. Granted there are only 4 movies on VHS and one of them he broke (Beauty and the Beast! And he won’t stop asking to watch it, the heathen! ;o)), but I’m constantly asking if we can watch Hercules or the Grinch instead.
8. What is your favorite genre of books to read? I have a wide range of interests when it comes to books lately thanks to my Nook and Barnes and Noble’s free eBooks, but the kind easiest for me to get into is science fiction. It’s what I grew up reading from my dad’s personal library and it’s always been easy for me to look ahead to the stars and the far future to a strange yet familiar world(s).
9. Dogs or cats? Oh definitely cats. I love dachshunds but cats will always be my favorite. I love the way they can curl up to half their size or stretch out to twice their length. My son also has an absurd love of cats and fear of dogs. My sister’s dachshund George he loves and mildly terrorizes, but other dogs make him run in unsure fear while cats he will immediately try to pet, hold or love on.
10. What do you hope to achieve by writing a blog? Mostly I write for myself or to share my thoughts on things with whoever reads. Mostly I’d like to show others in my situation (of a single parent) that not only are they not alone, what they’re doing isn’t “wrong” regardless of past choices. My bad decisions have been made by not just me but by countless others. We all fail, we all have triumphs, but we’re all also together. This isn’t a competition, it’s a team sport. Most importantly, I hope to make a change in the life of at least one person. If I make their day just a little brighter, if somehow my words encourage them to do something they hadn’t decided to do to make their lives better, or if it’s nothing more than, “Wow. So it’s not just me?” I’ll be okay with that.
11. Introverted, extroverted, or somewhere in between? Um… LOL Both? Majorly both at the same time? I talk so much it’s insane, but what goes on inside my head is nothing compared the amount of words that pass my lips. There are definitely people who think they know me since I’m so free with what I share, but it’s certainly the tip of the iceberg. Online where I can hide behind my screen I’m quite the extrovert. In social situations, I fade into the background still as unsure of myself as I was at 13.


Okay, listed below are the 11 questions I'd like to see answered. Some of them are quite personal. I ask them because they are things I'd love to know about you but if you're not comfortable answering any of them, just say so and leave it at that. :o)


1. If you have kids, what do you find yourself saying to them that your parents said to you that you swore you'd never say? If you don't have kids, same question but instead of "to your kids," "to other people?"
2. What is your favorite (relatively recent) picture of you? Why?
3. Name one parenting topic that really gets you going? Do you side with the majority, the minority, or no one?
4. What is your guilty pleasure? Be honest!
5. How often do you mop in your house? LOL
6. Are you happy in your relationship (or lack thereof)? If not, what do you wish you had the guts to do to change it?
7. When was the last time you watched a sunset or wished on a star with all your heart?
8. What's one of your biggest fears in regards to your child(ren) or future child(ren)? If no kids (and don't want them), how about a fear for your future?
9. I'm gonna borrow some words from Jewel here and ask if you could tell the world one thing, what would it be?
10. When was the last time you saw a movie in a theater sans kids? Is there one out or coming soon you really want to see?
11. When you feel sad or down, what do you do to cheer yourself up?


I'm picking some people I regularly interact with on Twitter and Facebook since I hear from them most often. Some I don't really interact with, but I'd love to see their responses to my questions!

Monique at Razing Mayhem @MayhemMatriarch

Liz at Six Year Itch @sixyearitch
Jen at A Day In the Life...
Keri at Quick-Witted and Witty @skeri
The Biz at And All That Biz @That_Biz (edit: SHE'S BACK on Twitter! YAY!)
Brooke at Some Days Is Like That @SchoolmarmDE
Michael at A Daddy Blog @adaddyblog


Anyone else who happens upon this blog is welcome to respond via their own post or merely answer the questions in the comments. I think these questions can reveal a lot while still allowing you to keep your mystery... ;o)

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Music and Depression

Usually when I'm depressed (or just sad) I like to listen to sad music. Oddly enough, it makes me feel better.

These last few days I've felt myself slipping into a depression. It's a slightly scary feeling especially when you have a happy-go-lucky 7 month old wanting your attention when all you want to do is lay in bed. I fake happiness because babies can pick up on your emotions easily and the last thing Ick deserves is unwarranted sadness. Well, today begins the weekend Ick's dad has him from Wednesday to Sunday.

After dropping Ick off at his dad's parents' house I decided to go drive around and listen to the "Sad" cd I made the other day. The first song on the cd is my newest musical obsession: "Ain't No Reason" by Brett Dennen. (Check out the video on YouTube.) The lyrics that get me the most are: "There ain't no reason things are this way / That's how they always been and they intend to stay. / I can't explain why we live this way / We do it everyday."

The song is about our world and our lives. The seeming randomness of bad things happening, hungry children in other countries, broken soldiers who fight for our freedom, people making 5 cents a day to make clothes (I picked that amount out of thin air, by the way), working your whole life for nothing with nothing at the end but death, slimy politicians, prisons full to the brim, our pride in money and the things it buys, our eagerness for war, the hatefulness people harbor for each other, and the pain we harbor within ourselves.

I know it seems like a lot to cover in one song under 4 minutes long, but he does it. And every time I watch the video I cry. It's deep and touching... And doesn't change my life one bit.

Which, ironically, is kinda the point of the song.

I've listened to this song about 25 times in the last two days and after about the 3rd time in a row, I feel a little better. I can't explain the healing effect sad songs have on me, I just feel it.

The sad songs on my "Sad" cd vary quite a bit. This is a social awareness song. Others are love songs, cheatin' songs, death by whiskey songs, suicide songs, and just some slow, seemingly sad songs that only make sense when you're deep down in that depression. The artists include: Wallflowers, Keith Urban, Sister Hazel, Brett Dennen (duh), The Fray, Counting Crows and more.

If you'd like the full playlist, send me an email, I'd be happy to send the list. :o) Well, and sad that you want my "Sad" list, but I can't help but understand.

But, like the sunrise following the darkest night, I'm soon craving "Mandolin Moon" by Sister Hazel or "Hillbilly Bone" by Blake Shelton and Trace Adkins.

It's nice to know, though, that when I start to feel blue, I have a carefully picked playlist to help pick me up.